Life insurance has always been a strange thing to sell. The product is a promise about an event nobody wants to think about, paid for now, for the benefit of people who will only ever see it if the worst happens. There is nothing to touch, nothing to test drive, nothing to show off to the neighbors.
Move that conversation onto a video call or a phone line, and it gets harder still. You lose the kitchen table, the handshake, the ability to read a room. The client is one tab away from their email, and one click away from ending the call.
Yet virtual is where a large share of life insurance conversations now happen, and some agents are very good at it. What they have in common is not a better script. It is a set of habits that make an invisible product feel understandable.
The policy is not the point. The people it protects are. Agents who lead with product types, riders, and rate classes lose clients in the first ten minutes, because nothing on the screen is about the client yet.
Open with the client's life instead. Who depends on them? What would need to keep happening if their income stopped: the mortgage, the kids' schooling, a parent they support, a business partner? What have they already put in place, through work or on their own? What made them take this call now?
These questions are not small talk before the real conversation. They are the real conversation. Every number that comes later should trace back to something the client said here.
Insurance has a vocabulary problem. Terms like face amount, cash value, riders, and underwriting class are precise to an agent and fog to almost everyone else. On a video call, fog is fatal. Clients will not interrupt to ask what something means. They will just quietly decide this is too complicated and that they will think about it.
Strong agents translate as they go. Not by dumbing anything down, but by attaching every concept to the client's situation:
Instead of naming a policy type first, describe what it does: coverage for a set number of years, or coverage meant to last a lifetime, and why someone in their situation might choose one or the other.
Instead of quoting a coverage amount, show where it comes from: what it would need to cover, and for how long.
Instead of listing riders, ask whether the situation each one addresses applies to them at all.
Then check understanding out loud. "Does that match how you were thinking about it?" "What part of this would you want me to explain differently?" On a screen, silence does not mean agreement. It often means confusion.
The one real advantage of virtual selling is the shared screen. A simple visual can make an abstract idea concrete in seconds: a timeline showing how long coverage lasts against the years the kids are at home, or a short list of the obligations the client named, with a coverage amount built beside it.
The trap is turning the call into a slideshow. The moment an agent starts reading slides, the client stops participating. Keep visuals few and simple, build them with the client where you can, and come back to the camera often. People buy from a person they trust, not a deck they sat through.
Clients often arrive with a number in their head, picked up from an online calculator or a coworker. Rather than arguing with it, build the right number with them. Walk through what they told you: how much income would need replacing, for how many years, what debts would need to be cleared, what goals they want protected.
When the client helps build the number, they own it. And when the premium comes up, the conversation is about a figure that means something to them, not an abstract quote they are trying to shrink.
Some clients genuinely need time, and pushing them is both bad practice and bad business in a field built on trust. But "let me think about it" often stands in for an unanswered question.
Ask about it directly and kindly: "Of course. What would you want to think through?" Common answers are the price, a spouse who has not weighed in, or uncertainty about the type of coverage. Each of those can be addressed on the call or in a specific follow-up booked before you hang up. A client who leaves with a date on the calendar is far more likely to come back than one who leaves with a vague promise to call.
Virtual selling does not relax any of the obligations that come with selling insurance. If anything, it raises the stakes, because conversations are easy to record and easy to revisit.
Follow your carrier's and your state's requirements on disclosures and suitability every time, not just when it is convenient. Never promise outcomes a policy cannot guarantee. Be clear about what is quoted versus what depends on underwriting. Clients who feel the agent was straight with them about the limits are the ones who keep their policies in force.
Virtual teams are, in one sense, easier to coach than field teams: every conversation happens on a screen or a line. But most managers still only hear a fraction of them, usually the ones a rep chooses to bring to a one-on-one.
The behaviors worth coaching are the ones above. Does the agent lead with people or product? Do they translate jargon or recite it? Do they check understanding? Do they build the coverage number with the client? Do they leave every call with a specific next step? Coach those one habit at a time, using the agent's own calls, and the improvement compounds.
Parlay was built to run that loop. Agents capture their appointments on their phone or the Parlay Chip wearable, and every pitch gets scored. Each agent gets their next move, their number, and their Double Down, the one habit that would get them paid on more of the pitches they already give. Managers see every agent scored, on a scoreboard rather than a surveillance feed, so it is clear what to coach.
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